Thomas Jefferson often took the opportunity to advise his children, grandchildren and others on matters of personal conduct. Over the years he developed a list of axioms for personal behavior. Some seem to have been of his own invention; others derived from classical or literary sources.
Think as you please, and so let others, and you will have no disputes.
When angry, count 10. before you speak; if very angry, 100.
Jefferson sent a slightly shorter version of the above list to Paul Clay, the son of his friend Charles Clay, in 1817,2 and a still more refined version in 1825 to John Spear Smith, on behalf of his son Thomas Jefferson Smith.3 In his 1825 letter, Jefferson listed a "decalogue of canons for observation in practical life."
Never put off till tomorrow what you can do to-day.
Never trouble another for what you can do yourself.
Never spend your money before you have it.
Never buy what you do not want, because it is cheap; it will be dear to you.
Pride costs us more than hunger, thirst and cold.
We never repent of having eaten too little.
Nothing is troublesome that we do willingly.
How much pain have cost us the evils which have never happened.
Take things always by their smooth handle.
When angry, count ten, before you speak; if very angry, an hundred.4
Around 1811, Jefferson wrote a letter to his granddaughter Cornelia Jefferson Randolph, which contained a list of twelve “Canons of Conduct in Life” – rules to live by, in essence. In 1825 he sent...More >>